Our Marriage

I have always heard "The first year of marriage is the hardest" and boy did I believe that!! Not only was it our first year of marriage, it was our first year with a baby which made it that much harder. Once we got into our second year of marriage things seemed to go a little more smoothly. By no means did Bradley & I have a perfect marriage, sometimes all we did was fight! All of our arguments were centered around two things... Money or Bradley playing music in bars. Who doesn't argue about money.. right? Especially anyone who knows how Bradley likes to trade vehicles like he changes his underwear. It was normal to find out Bradley had bought a new vehicle by pulling up at his work or the house and seeing it parked there. All I wanted was to be included on major purchases like that. The other fighting words subject... Bradley playing music in bars!! Where do I start?? Well for starters I believe that there is nothing good that comes out of a married man OR woman being in a bar without their spouse! Especially when you are playing music and drinking. Putting alcohol in the mix is NEVER good. I would stay home with Owen while Bradley went to the bars and played music, you know trying to be the "supportive wife" Well it was normal for me to wake up at 2 or 3 in the morning and Bradley still not be home. Once I even got on my Facebook to see my husband tagged in a picture taking shots, WITH NO WEDDING RING ON. Bradley didn't see it the way I was seeing it, and he didn't realize how selfish the whole playing music in bars was. I tried to get him to see where I was coming from and why I was so upset but he just didn't see it. He didn't see that his priorities were messed up. I left a few times and went to stay at my mom's house but I never stayed gone long. Bradley would quit playing music for a little while but before you knew it he was in the bars again. He began to tell me "I was playing music before you and I'll be playing music after you" and I was starting to believe it too...